My friends and I decided to rollerblade down Santa Monica/Venice beach in bikini's with our less-than favorable body parts highlighted in red lipstick. As you can see from this picture one message, was "child bearing hips," written down my thighs were "thunder thighs," and "saddle bags." It was very liberating to have a stranger excitely shout, "thunder thighs" as a compliment as we rolled by. When I own my insecurities, it naturally makes me more attractive.
As a trainer, I spend many hours of my days discussing how people want to change their "less-than favorable" body parts. What I have found is that people/clients who own their bodies actually transform them. I will never have petite hips/thighs nor will "boyfriend" style jeans or potato sack dresses look flattering on my lower body. Instead of pining after what will never be, I spend my time focusing on strengthing and capitalizing on what already is.
My "child bearing"hips come in handy when I want to sumo deadlift and squat. My "thunder thighs" support me to run a marathon, box jump like a champ and squat 165 lbs. I have changed my relationship with my body by training for performance first and aestics second.
Take away: If you were only given one car for the rest of you life, and you didn't even get to pick it out at the lot; would you spend hours on hours bitching about it and let it rust or would you get some rims and "pimp YOUR ride?"